Suatu ketika, ada seorang anak laki-laki yang bersifat pemarah. Untuk mengurangi kebiasaan marah sang anak, ayahnya memberikan sekantong paku dan mengatakan pada anak itu, untuk memakukan sebuah paku di pagar belakang setiap kali dia marah …
Hari pertama anak itu telah memakukan 48 paku ke pagar setiap kali dia marah … Lalu secara bertahap jumlah itu berkurang. Dia mendapati bahwa ternyata lebih mudah menahan amarahnya daripada memakukan paku ke pagar tersebut.
Akhirnya, tibalah hari di mana anak tersebut merasa sama sekali bisa mengendalikan amarahnya, dan tidak cepat kehilangan kesabarannya…. Dia memberitahukan hal ini kepada ayahnya, yang kemudian mengusulkan agar dia mencabut satu paku untuk setiap hari di mana dia tidak marah….
Hari-hari berlalu dan anak laki-laki itu pun, akhirnya memberitahu ayahnya bahwa semua paku telah tercabut olehnya. Kemudian, sang ayah menuntun anaknya ke pagar. “Hmm, kamu telah berhasil dengan baik anakku, tapi… lihatlah lubang-lubang di pagar ini. Pagar ini tidak akan pernah bisa sama seperti sebelumnya… “Ketika kamu mengatakan sesuatu dalam kemarahan… Kata-katamu meninggalkan bekas seperti lubang ini … di hati orang lain”….
Kamu dapat menusukkan pisau pada seseorang, lalu mencabut pisau itu kembali… Tetapi tidak peduli beberapa kali kamu minta maaf, luka itu akan tetap ada … DAN luka karena kata-kata adalah sama buruknya dengan luka fisik
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Sumber artikel, dari buku:
Sudarmono, Dr.(2010). Mutiara Kalbu Sebening Embun Pagi, 1001 Kisah Sumber Inspirasi, Idea Press, Yogyakarta. Hal. 120 - 121. ISBN 978-6028-686-402.
Hari pertama anak itu telah memakukan 48 paku ke pagar setiap kali dia marah … Lalu secara bertahap jumlah itu berkurang. Dia mendapati bahwa ternyata lebih mudah menahan amarahnya daripada memakukan paku ke pagar tersebut.
Akhirnya, tibalah hari di mana anak tersebut merasa sama sekali bisa mengendalikan amarahnya, dan tidak cepat kehilangan kesabarannya…. Dia memberitahukan hal ini kepada ayahnya, yang kemudian mengusulkan agar dia mencabut satu paku untuk setiap hari di mana dia tidak marah….
Hari-hari berlalu dan anak laki-laki itu pun, akhirnya memberitahu ayahnya bahwa semua paku telah tercabut olehnya. Kemudian, sang ayah menuntun anaknya ke pagar. “Hmm, kamu telah berhasil dengan baik anakku, tapi… lihatlah lubang-lubang di pagar ini. Pagar ini tidak akan pernah bisa sama seperti sebelumnya… “Ketika kamu mengatakan sesuatu dalam kemarahan… Kata-katamu meninggalkan bekas seperti lubang ini … di hati orang lain”….
Kamu dapat menusukkan pisau pada seseorang, lalu mencabut pisau itu kembali… Tetapi tidak peduli beberapa kali kamu minta maaf, luka itu akan tetap ada … DAN luka karena kata-kata adalah sama buruknya dengan luka fisik
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Sumber artikel, dari buku:
Sudarmono, Dr.(2010). Mutiara Kalbu Sebening Embun Pagi, 1001 Kisah Sumber Inspirasi, Idea Press, Yogyakarta. Hal. 120 - 121. ISBN 978-6028-686-402.
NAILS IN THE FENCE
There once was a little boy who had a bad temper. His Father gave him
a bag of nails and told him that every time he lost his temper, he must
hammer a nail into the back of the fence. The first day the boy had
driven 37 nails into the fence. Over the next few weeks, as he learned
to control his anger, the number of nails hammered daily gradually
dwindled down. He discovered it was easier to hold his temper than to
drive those nails into the fence.
Finally the day came when the boy didn't lose his temper at all. He
told his father about it and the father suggested that the boy now pull out
one nail for each day that he was able to hold his temper.
The days passed and the young boy was finally able to tell his father
that all the nails were gone. The father took his son by the hand and led
him to the fence. He said, "You have done well, my son, but look at the
holes in the fence. The fence will never be the same. When you say
things in anger, they leave a scar just like this one. You can put
a knife in a man and draw it out. It won't matter how many times you
say I'm sorry, the wound is still there."
A verbal wound is as bad as a physical one. Friends are very rare
jewels, indeed! They make you smile and encourage you to succeed. They
lend an ear, they share words of praise and they always want to open
their hearts to us."
Send this to everyone you consider a FRIEND, even if it means sending
it back to the person who sent it to you. If it comes back to you, then
you'll know you have a circle of friends.
Just one more thing...
Please forgive me if I have ever left a hole in your fence!
~ author unknown ~
How a Boy Learned to Restrain His Bad Temper
or Nails in the Fence
This is a short story about restraining bad temper. (If I learn who has written the original story, I´ll add the information.) This is one of those timeless stories that teach the importance of treating people with respect.
There once was a little boy who had a bad temper. His father gave him a bag of nails and told him that every time he lost his temper, he must hammer a nail into the back of the fence. The first day the boy had driven 37 nails into the fence. Over the next few weeks, as he learned to control his anger, the number of nails hammered daily gradually dwindled down. He discovered it was easier to hold his temper than to drive those nails into the fence. Finally the day came when the boy didn't lose his temper at all. He told his father about it and the father suggested that the boy now pull out one nail for each day that he was able to hold his temper. The days passed and the young boy was finally able to tell his father that all the nails were gone.
The father took his son by the hand and led him to the fence. He said, "You have done well, my son, but look at the holes in the fence. The fence will never be the same. When you say things in anger, they leave a scar just like this one. You can put a knife in a man and draw it out. It won't matter how many times you say I'm sorry, the wound is still there.
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The next time you get angry with someone and are about to speak, ask yourself if there was a way to say what you want to say with neutral words. Often the habit of reacting angrily is just that - a habit you learned when you were young and haven´t questioned since. You might have become blind to the effect it has on your life. It is really so that the world reflects back your own attitude. If you constantly wonder why people are angry at you, perhaps it is you who treated them with anger first? Listen to the words and tone of voice you use. And try, really try to speak neutrally to someone who are angry with. If you know it will be difficult, write the words down first. Rehearse it in your mind. Decide on a prize you will give to yourself if you succeed.
Teach your mind intentionally to use respectful words. And you just might find that life begins to feel a lot nicer - because people aren´t angry at you anymore.
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